Just ten days into 2017, you’re probably wondering if you’ll be able to keep your New Year’s resolution. You’re not alone.
Even Beyoncé has her days when being a mom, wife, woman, HUMAN BEING, etc. gets in the way of perfection. It’s tempting to want to reinvent ourselves every January. But, what if, instead of a New Year, new you approach, we simply aimed to enhance, and elevate, the person looking back at us in the mirror? Perhaps we should first note what it is we already like about ourselves.
When I decorate a room, I look for its existing strengths. High ceilings, insane light, great acoustics and other features that make me realize I’ve been blessed with an existing, potential-filled foundation I can then invest in. I never walk in swinging a sledge hammer, and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve hired a wrecking ball. Almost exactly a year ago, the design world lost an icon: Lella Vignelli. What Lella knew, that we can apply to ourselves, is that you shouldn’t change the essence of something simply for the sake of changing it. She once said, “When I enter a space that I have to design for a client, I listen to what the space says—the walls, the windows. You can’t change what that space wants to be.”
That’s not to say change is bad, after all, don’t we all look forward to the first flowers of spring, the sound of coffee beans becoming a cappuccino and dream of the day our kids get their driving licenses and carpooling is a thing of the past? Yes, change can be good, but before we dive into a 180-degree transformation, Coco Chanel once said, “Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.” While we are given endless opportunities to apply her 14 words of wisdom to situations in life, there is really only one interpretation. Time is too precious to be wasted on trying to completely redefine something that is what it is. Perhaps that wall we want to turn into a door is there for a reason. Maybe it’s there to protect us. Maybe it’s there for us to climb over.
As January becomes February, February becomes March and eventually, those flowers of spring appear, I hope you are able to keep any resolutions you set. And if you aren’t, forgive yourself, channel your inner Coco Chanel and most importantly, just do you …